Foreword by Sari Solden, M.S., LMFT
The new book by Regina Lark and Judith Kolberg Emotional Labor: Why A Woman’s Work is Never Done and What To Do About It, brings into bold relief a concept that may come as a surprise to many. Although it is 2021, there is a deeply held practice and belief by women that despite advances in “sharing the household tasks” with partners, they still carry the largest share of what the authors call the emotional labor for the family. Even while men increasingly share, help, or take on many of the tasks of childcare, home care, laundry and cooking, women of all ages very often continue to carry the mental and emotional work load and feelings of responsibility for the smooth operation of the household and the well-being of its members.
This comes as no surprise to psychotherapists such as myself, who hear daily shame-filled “confessions” from women with organizational challenges. The “unwritten job description” that I first wrote about in 1995, outlined the internalized gender role expectations that lead women to feel hyper-responsible for tending to the “niceties of life”; everything from remembering their mother- in-law’s birthday, their sister’s anniversary, sending flowers for sympathy, making sure the children have regular doctor and dentist appointments, writing thank you notes, planning parties, problem solving, attending to hurt feelings, teacher conferences, and on and on, and, of course, as the authors describe so colorfully, making sure that no one goes without the “f—ing ketchup! “
That’s me, Judith Kolberg, book coach to Regina Lark with our book Emotional Labor: Why a Woman’s Work is Never Done and What To Do About It. It’s available now at Charis Books & More, 184 S. Candler Street, Decatur, GA 30030 and at Eagle Eye Book Shop, 2076 N. Decatur Rd, Decatur, GA 30033.
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FROM BOOK COACHING TO COLLABORATION
Dr. Regina Lark is a professional organizer and feminist historian. Several years ago, the concept of ‘emotional labor’ turned on a lightbulb in her mind that excited her greatly. The emotional labor concept integrated Regina’s background in feminist history, professional organizing, and social change. She knew she wanted to write a book. She had lots of notes, clear ideas, and tons of research material but whenever she sat down to write, other priorities won out, or she just could not quite get the right words out of her head. “I realized I should hire a book coach” Regina concluded.
Simply hiring a book coach immediately gives you the focus needed to write a book. I coached Regina through explicating her central concept and key themes. We established a process for working together, stuck to it religiously, and the book began to unfold. Back and forth the drafts went between us. What began as coaching an author through the writing, developed into a fuller collaboration. Soon I could write whole chapters in Regina’s voice and could even add original content.
The resulting 40,000-word book, Emotional Labor: Why A Woman’s Work is Never Done and What to do About It, has attracted significant ‘buzz’ including praise from subject matter experts in emotional labor; leaders in the field of feminist history, activists at the forefront of women’s empowerment, and outstanding professional organizers. Regina has positioned herself as an authority on the topic securing presentation bookings and media events.
Every author’s need is different. And, no book coach can tell you your book will be a best-seller, but I can guarantee you a superbly interesting, high quality book you can be proud of. See judithkolberg.com for more book coaching information or contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or 404-231-6172.
The third edition of Psychic Debris continues the journey toward self-discovery based on new information in the realm of time management and productivity. Although “time management” is impossible (time is fixed and we can’t do anything about it!) the new chapters unlock the mysteries of managing your relationship to time. Also new, is a list of positive affirmations to help un-clutter the mind of psychic debris – “head trash” that keeps us from realizing our goals. Is a cluttered closet a manifestation of a cluttered mind? Regina Lark’s Psychic Debris and Crowded Closets is about understanding the relationship between the stuff in our head and what’s under our bed. to serve readers as a workbook, a journal, and a reflection of your desire to learn more about your connection to clutter and its impact on body, mind, and spirit. Open your heart and head, and your closets and cupboards, then consider these alternate ways out of the mess. Psychic Debris and Crowded Closets creates the foundation to help your understand your relationship between the stuff in your head and what’s under your bed.
Nao Deixe Para Depois – A Relacao Entre Bagunca Mental E Armarios Abarrotados (Em Portugues do Brasil)
Não é porque algo trouxe felicidade no passado que precisa ser guardado para sempre” Um armário abarrotado é a manifestação de uma mente bagunçada? Não deixe para depois nos apresenta formas de entender a relação entre o lixo mental e a bagunça nos nossos espaços de trabalho ou em casa. De forma prática e objetiva, Regina F. Lark nos apresenta uma série de exercícios e reflexões acerca da relação entre a desordem e o impacto dela em nosso corpo, mente e espírito. Abra o coração, a cabeça e os armários e comece agora a se libertar da bagunça.
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